Career / Personal Development

Know Your Truth

Kay Kelison CIR, ACIR, CDR Hits: 1115

kaykellison thumb — Oscar Wilde once said “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken” This made me start thinking about knowing your own truth and celebrating who you are as an individuals. I know for myself it’s not hiding of who I am or changing things about me just so I can fit in.

There's a big difference between being you and being rude. You might have your opinions, dreams, and preferences, but so does everyone else. You shouldn't disrespect people who disagree with you; they have the privilege of being themselves just as you do. Conversely, don't agree with something you honestly don't think is right; just don't try to force your opinions on other people.

Being your weird, goofy self has some ups and downs. Some people might think you're weird, call you names behind your back, or laugh at you. But by far the majority of people will have the utmost respect for you because you are brave enough to stand up to these things.

People want to make friends with people who have something special about them: whether they make them feel good has a different sense of humor, or even something as simple as being a great parent. If everyone on the planet had the same attitude or personality, the world would be a boring one and I personally would be making plans on visiting mars. Don't lose yourself when you're with other friends. Be yourself. Don't be someone else so other people will like you; in the end, you would end up hurting other people and losing yourself.

Make sure that you can show the same "you" to everyone consistently. Do what's right. You won’t truly be yourself unless you can face yourself. Most of the time when people in general perceive you a certain way, it means you don't fit in to your society. Whether you want to fit in or not is up to you, but you are only setting yourself up for trouble when you neglect society's ways. (That is, unless you decide to live online for the rest of your life.) Don't deny yourself of the truth by saying it's everyone else's problem and not yours. You'll only be hurting yourself in the long run. How I try to live by: my life, my style, myself

Define Yourself –

Can't be yourself if you don't know, understand, and accept yourself first. It should be your first goal to find this out. Try to take time out for yourself and think about your life and choices. Try to think about what kind of things you would or wouldn't like to do, and act accordingly; finding out through trial and error helps more than you might think it does

Stop Caring How People Perceive You -

It really doesn't matter. It's hard to be yourself when you're caught up in wondering "Do they think I add value? Do they think I'm fat? Do they think I'm stupid?" To be yourself, you've got to let go of these concerns and just let your behavior flow, with only your consideration of others as a filter — not their consideration of you. This could go around in a vicious cycle trying to please people; it's totally pointless in the end, and it leaves you exhausted.

Honesty–

We’re all imperfect, growing, learning human beings. If you feel ashamed or insecure about any aspect of yourself — and you feel that you have to hide those parts of you, whether physically or emotionally — then you have to come to terms with that and learn to convert your so-called flaws into individualistic quirks. Be honest with yourself, but don't beat yourself up; apply this philosophy to others, as well.

Chill Out-

Stop worrying about the worst that could happen, especially in social situations. So what if you fall flat on your face? Or get something in your teeth? Learn to laugh at yourself both when it happens and afterwards. . It's also a quality for someone to be able to laugh at themselves and not take themselves too seriously! Besides, laughing is a great stress relief.

Express Your Individuality -

Whether it's your sense of humor, or even your manner of speaking, if your preferred way of doing something strays from the mainstream, then be proud of it... unless it's destructive to yourself or others. Be a character, not a type. 7

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About the Author

Kay Kelison is a seasoned researcher and social media strategist; creative, strategic and passionate with 12+ years of exceptional experience with such companies as T-Mobile, Amazon, Wachovia, Saltmine, Start-Ups, and is a Principal Sourcer/Research for Bing/Online Division Services for Microsoft. Knowledge of web 2.0 technologies and social media platforms. Proven aptitude identifying opportunities, implementing solutions, and increasing visibility through video, blogs and social networks. Experience with international teams and diversity initiatives.

Responsible for strategy and development of marketing Internet-based social media / social networks communities, including the development of Mobile Recruiting, Blogs, MySpace, Facebook, Linkedin, Twitter and online video spaces such as Vimeo, YouTube. Accomplished Published/Speaker engagements which include executive round tables, business marketing and leadership teams, MBA, and SourcCon, etc She is a part of the Pacific Northwest Sourcing 7 SIG which is a sub-group of Pacific Northwest Recruiter Association, this group is to enhance our local strategic Talent Engagement community by leveraging expertise in the areas of Sourcing, Research and Social Media to attract the right talent to our organizations.

Kay Kelison CIR, ACIR, CDR | Talent Sourcer

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